Kathleen Smith, LPC defines ADHD as a condition that involves a person’s hyperactivity and impulse control. She says, “Adults can be diagnosed with ADHD, though symptoms typically emerge when they are children. When symptoms are left untreated, they can cause problems for adults at work and school and in relationships.”
Living life with ADHD is a fast and quirky lifestyle. Understanding it was the only way for me to utilize it so I can become a better version of myself.
Ever since I was a kid, I had trouble focusing on the things that I need to do, often finding myself distracted by anything that occurs spontaneously. It was in my late adolescence that I was made aware of my condition. Awareness of my situation was essential to me as it allowed me to understand who I am. Now, I can function and live my life with more control over my condition, helping me manage it to the best of my capabilities.
Don Baker, LMHC encourages further by stating, “The journey to a more fulfilling life is a process of discovery. It’s about unpacking your truth, uncovering your strengths, and learning to be more conscious of the moment-to-moment choices that shape your experience.”
Life With ADHD Is Never Easy
I always find myself procrastinating, often losing complete thought of time. I frequently miss deadlines and have serious difficulty in budgeting my time, because I never seem to make it in time. Conversations were also not my specialty. Talking, and even remaining eye contact, was very difficult for me during my early years. These things made life a little more difficult than usual for me, and that is why I learned how to utilize it to be more of a strength than just a weakness in my life.
Embracing My Flaws
Accepting ADHD in my life was the first step to utilizing it to my advantage. Knowing that I still find it difficult sitting steadfastly for a long time, I realized that being active while doing work was the best situation for me. I excelled more at work when I got to move around, allowing me to burn the physical energy that I perpetually felt the need to use. It also allowed me to multitask more, evoking a constant impulse and desire to do more things at a given time.
One of the virtues I cannot commit my life with is patience. I have always found waiting to be a stressful and often ill-tempering activity for me. I find it hard to control my fidgeting, fiddling things with my fingers. It sometimes becomes a hassle for everyone around me, and they keep saying that I was too noisy and that I had to stop moving. These are things that I sometimes consciously do, but most often than not, subconsciously, and that is why I find it difficult to avoid.
“ADHD is a disorder characterized by the inability to regulate one’s behavior, emotions and attention. As we get older, we have fewer people telling us what to do. When we get to college or a job, we’re expected to show up without having someone tell us what to do.” – Stephen Faraone, Ph.D.
No One Is Perfect, And So Am I
All these things about me, things that make me imperfect to some, are the very things that make me feel normal. Understanding that perfection does not need to exist in the world allows me to think of myself and the ADHD that comes with me, not as a burden to me and those around me.
Engaging in conversations allowed me to understand people more, allowing me to socially and romantically build connections with people. I have used my hate for disorganization and made it a highway to develop my organizing skills, and it will enable me to live my life more organized than usual.
With ADHD, I am now more motivated to reach my dreams, being more patient with life and all its shenanigans, taking life one step at a time.