Having children is hard. It is not a job that you can just quit if you could no longer handle the stress or pressure. Sometimes, even taking a break is no longer an option. Your kids are with you wherever you go. They follow you to the restroom, the bedroom, the kitchen, and it is understandable to feel frustrated or tired. Well, have you ever thought of how life would be if your child needed extra attention? Some parents have the blessing of having a child with autism or ADHD and maybe even both.
I know this might sound scary to you, but maybe you do not understand what it means for a child to be in the spectrum or for them to have ADHD. As a person, what we do not understand can be scary. At times we feed into what the media shows us. Most of the time, these kids with ADHD or Autism are shown to be erratic or misbehaving, and I would not blame you if that is how you see these kids, but I am here to tell you that ADHD and Autism is a whole different ball game than what you see on television.
So, first off, let us talk about what the difference is between ADHD and Autism. ADHD or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Autism can look like each other. Both are characterized by the child’s problem focusing, impulse, trouble communicating, and having difficulty with school work and relationships.
Although quite similar, these are two very distinct conditions. Autism spectrum disorders are a series of related developmental disorders that can affect language skills, behavior, social interactions, and the ability to learn. ADHD impacts the way the brain grows and develops.
The question now is, can a child have both? The answer is yes; a child may have both ADHD and ASD. ADHD is found to be the most common coexisting condition in children who have ASD. On the other hand, children who have ADHD show low-level signs of ASD.
Now, how do you handle it if your child had ADHD or ASD or maybe even both? Having a child with these conditions can be challenging, but if you are able to channel their energy in a more positive light as early as possible, then it will bring great comfort to you and your family. It is essential that you understand how ADHD affects your family as a whole before you can fully be a parent to this child as they often have behaviors that can disrupt the family. This is most taxing on the child’s siblings as their needs might be overlooked, or their achievements might not be as celebrated.
What you need to do is to keep yourself mentally and physically healthy first. This is because you can affect the factors of a positive environment for your child. Try and keep a positive perspective on things and make sure to believe in what your child can do. You have to see this condition, not as a disease but rather something that makes your child unique.
Something that can help a lot with children who grow up with ADHD or ASD is if you create a structure and you stick to it. This is a way for you to keep them organized and focused. While you are at it, make sure to look for a sport or an activity that your child enjoys and is most suited for their strengths. What this does is it helps them focus their energy at something else rather than them being violent to themselves or to other people.
I know life with a child who has ADHD or ASD can be difficult and, at times, frustrating, but at the end of the day, life is better when you see your family together and happy. You feel a lot calmer and safer to know that you are able to guide your children towards a better life. As parents, we always want whatever is best for our children, and we are always willing to do whatever it takes for them to live life as comfortably as possible.
What I would like you to remember from all of this is that these children are not a burden. They cannot control their actions like everyone else. So, as the parent or as their family, we have to make sure that they understand that there is nothing wrong with them and that they are loved and supported. Much like everyone else, all they need is love from the people who matter the most because at the end of the day, even if they have been so frustrating all day, what matter is that you are family and that you love each other like no one else ever can love you.